Final Communication Blog

Classmates,

For the last eight weeks, I admit that I have finally found a common ground with all of you---Communication, which seems to be an on-going challenge for each one of us. Regardless how many of us are deaf or not, communication continues to be main vehicle for a clear information. I greatly appreciated each one of you and your willingness to share your experiences and opinions.

One thing I learned that communication comes in different form, sensation, and meaning for each one of us. This makes our lives more interesting and challenging in positive ways. To encourage the up keeping with communication skill, I encourage you to connect me through facebook.

I enjoyed working with you and am looking forward to continue.

Chrissy

Team Building Part 1-Blog

To be frankly honest with you, I have not yet experience a stage where it was hard to say good bye to the team. I am a job hopper, so I leave before I experience the final stage of team development. Perhaps, this is because I am used to leave a place or people frequently. Perhaps, this is because all of my good friends live far away and that is part of Deaf culture. The only experience that I found to be the most difficult to say good bye, which was saying good bye to one of my former students who I worked very hard with.. someone I greatly invested... In the end, this student was still angry with me and I had to leave without a closure.

Communication-Week 5

There are two persons in my life who I have disagreements with the most frequent. My mom and my husband are the most sensitive people I have ever met and this becomes an intruding subject in the disagreements. Sensitivity does not allow any of us to be remain objective.  Admittedly, I usually am a strong opinionated person who will say what I needed to say right out loud and right at the spot. 

Growing up, my father told me to learn to "bite your tongue."  I never understood what it meant until I was much older and had disagreements with my mother and husband frequently.  Two strategies I learned to use when I attempt to soften the disagreements. First, I had to learn to allow mom or my husband to express their opinions and thoughts even though I knew they were misinformed at times.  Second, I learned that sometimes it is better to not continue the debate until we all have clear minds to continue. I would like to add a third strategy, which is easier to say than to do. The third strategy is to apologize and accept the blame, especially when it is not even your fault or when you did not have anything to do with it. This is the challenging task.  I learned that people relieve their anger quickly when I apologize for someone else's mistake without stating or pointing whose fault. In some disagreements, it is better to let it go.  In others, it is worth fighting for. 

I believe I could gain my skill using NVC and 3R's by applying them more in disagreements with my mother and my husband.  I would like to see the results of using these strategies.